Friday, October 16, 2015

{Friday Favorites} - October 16

It has been a long time since I have done some Friday Favorites! So long, that I now have a new blog design. This is my second blog this week! Trying to get back into it. It's a release for me!

1. It's getting a little cooler, so it's harder to get out and play! Playdates inside help us get through it! Aren't they cute!! They did this all on their own, so of course us mommies had to take a picture!

2. Harvest time....each night we are in the field, bringing daddy, grandpa and the other guys supper. She's just chilling a way. 

3. I love these new mugs I got from target! Seriously as if I needed new mugs!

4. I started a new workout program - Turbo Fire! I love the high pace and cardio burn! I love that Lia watches and learns good habits!

5. Sunday, I took Lia out for a perfect fall shoot! I may be biased but I think she is the cutest!

Have a great day!!

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Dear New Mom/Mom To Be....

Dear New Mom/Mom to Be - 

I by no means have this mom thing figured fact that is why I am writing to you today. I am not in expert; I'll let you in on a little secret, none of us are. Until about a month ago, I struggled with so much about being a mom. 95% of that is due to my expectations that I had on being a mother and about my expectations of babies. The other 5% is my natural instincts to achieve and have everything be ideal. 

So here it is, my advice to you....


Let go of all of your expectations. Let go of the thought that you have to nurse, or you have to cloth diaper, or you have to feed your baby all organic food, or that you child can't have sugar, or that your baby should sleep through the night by a certain time, or sit up or walk by a certain time, that they can't watch movies, that they have to sleep into a crib until they are two, that they have to cry it out, that they can't cry, that they won't through fits, etc.

You get the gist. I had expectations about all of these things. I'll be honest and admit that none of them have happened they way I expected. It made me tired, weary, frustrated, and let done and instead of enjoying each phase, I let it get the best of me and my marriage struggled and I got angry at my adorable growing daughter. 

The last month, I've been doing my best to let go of those expectations. Lia still doesn't sleep through every night, she sometimes sleeps in my bed, she is on a mattress on the floor, I sometimes set her in front of the i-pad/tv so I can get something done, she has thrown fits in stores, she's had timeouts/spankings, she drinks pop on occasion, she eats lots of popcorn, she eats rocks and sticks, ...BUT

Since I have learned to let go, I have more energy, I'm happier, my marriage is better and I've been enjoying my daughter more. 

Don't get me wrong, I still have my moments (we all do), but I just wanted to let you know, it's ok. It's ok and at the end of the day, we are all doing our best and loving our children. Loving your child is what is important...not the expectations!

You can breath! 

Sunday, September 6, 2015

{Friday Favorites} - September 4

Ok..ok...I know I'm a couple days late, but better late then never, right?? 

1. Last Saturday I ran in the Women Rock Half Marathon with my sister-in-law. My mom ran the 5k and my niece ran the 2.5k. We had a great little girls/birthday weekend! We both PR'd too :)

2. Evenings spent as our little family. I love us.

3. You play foosball with your child too, right?? She loves it. She is starting to try to kick the ball on her own and most of the time ends up on her bottom :) but fun to watch.

4. My hubby got me flowers for my birthday! For those that know Claudy's opinion of flowers, you know this is something special!!

5. Lia loves shoes. She brings me lots of pairs during the day to put on her or that she wants me to put on! She tried walking in my shoes!! Didn't get very far!

Hope you all have a great week!


Wednesday, September 2, 2015

{September Goals}

Well, July & August came and went. Work was super busy and I tried to make every effort to live in the moment and enjoy our "summer". Because of that, the blog suffered! I'm back this month, and what better way to start then my monthly goals! I just had to use the fall pic of Lia from last year! Look how little she was...

Here we go with those goals!

1. Work trip to Florida
2. 100 of 1000 gifts
3. Help 5 - 7 more people reach their health and fitness goals
4.  Build my Beachbody Team
5. Attend a football game - I love football!!!
6. Take a family picture - Seriouslly we have like 2 total and they are selfies :(
7. Read 1 non-fiction and 1 fiction book
8. Another Round of 21 Day Fix - Want to do it with me? 
9. No spend September - Only spend money on the necessities. This is hard for me, I love shopping in the fall (reminding myself that we wear these clothes for 6 months)
10. Participate in Bible Study
11. Get Lia to sleep through the night  - Help this mommy needs sleep!!
 12. One date night before Harvest
13. Friday Favorites blog every week.

What are your monthly goals? 

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

I can do it all...

I was raised to be independent. For that I am grateful. It's what got me through college and through my 20's. I was taught that I can't isn't a word, it's not in our vocabulary. As an educator, I wish more students were being taught that same thing. There is nothing I dislike more, than when a mom calls to tell me her child needs help and then hands the phone to the student, or when a parent tells me, "they can't do that, they'll never be able to do that..." People will only go as far as they think you believe they can go. I fully believe we need to set high expectations.

All of that to say, being strong and independent isn't a bad thing.But, sometimes I get caught in my "I can do it all" mentality. When we first got married, Claudy would get so made at me, because I wouldn't let him help me. I've had to learn that letting people help you, doesn't make you weak or dependent, but actually there is freedom and joy in it. 

This week, I was sitting on the couch, and I heard the voice in my head saying..."Why can't you keep Lia home, you should be able to work and be a stay at home mom. You should be cooking every meal and cleaning the house, Claudy shouldn't help with that." 

They just kept coming one by one. 

I had to tell myself to stop. It isn't true. Community and allowing others to help you is a good thing. There is freedom. We were designed for community.