Wednesday, June 12, 2013

{Hard Moments from Year One}


Thankfully, we haven't experienced any major difficulties in year one...However, there has been some bumps. I'm sure that if you asked Claudy, his list would be different

Losing my Independence: Not that I think I'm old, but I did get married a little older than some. I lived on my own for 7 years after college, owned a house, moved to a foreign country, etc... Wow...getting married was different. I love him and I love having him around all the time and not having to say goodbye each night...but where did my alone time go :) Why now, does it matter if I go run by myself, why do you need to know every place I stop, etc...I know it is all out of love and care, so I'm adjusting, but it was extremely difficult. 
One day about 2 months into our marriage, I locked him out of our 'apartment' I felt so bad, but I needed space. Yikes, I am learning and still have a lot to learn. 

Living with People: I love living with Claudy, but man, it is tough living with other people. We live in a guest house were every week we get new people. Even when new guests come in we have other housemates. It is tough. It's hard to fight, spend time alone, grow our relationship etc. Our organization has done everything they can to make it good for us, and I'm so thankful, but it is still hard. 

There have been other hard moments, but I'm so thankful for Claudy. I'm thankful for his love and desire to walk through life with me...What a blessing. 


6 comments :

ThistleAshD said...

Wanting alone time is the hardest part about being a mom too! It's a constant struggle for me to have to be giving myself every moment.

Love how humbly honest you were :)

Bekah @ re·solve said...

That's so funny that you locked him out!! Hopefully he can laugh at it now :)

Julie Evink said...

Oh my goodness I'm the same way! I lived on my own, had my own space and I miss that so much sometimes. Like going to the cupboard to make supper and half the ingredients are gone! Just wait till you have children and you will NEVER be alone :)

Veronica Lee Burns said...

getting alone time is definitely important and hard to do in marriage! I have to say though that locking him out is kind of hilarious!

So glad to have found your blog through this link-up! Following you now :)

Kalyn Randolph said...

Ohh, I love this post! The Lord is good all the time even when we think we cannot make it! I am so blessed to see that y'all have Him at the core and walked by faith! So glad you linked up with us and shared this! This was my main desire when creating the link-up! I hope other women feel just as inspired by marriage as I did when reading your post!
My transition through the independence portion of marriage was tough for me, too. I also had a hard time dealing with "we" instead of "me" at some points. So glad to know that all women sometimes go through the same emotions when attempting to combine two lives into one.

Robin Norgren said...

beautifully honest - thank you for sharing