I was raised to be independent. For that I am grateful. It's what got me through college and through my 20's. I was taught that I can't isn't a word, it's not in our vocabulary. As an educator, I wish more students were being taught that same thing. There is nothing I dislike more, than when a mom calls to tell me her child needs help and then hands the phone to the student, or when a parent tells me, "they can't do that, they'll never be able to do that..." People will only go as far as they think you believe they can go. I fully believe we need to set high expectations.
All of that to say, being strong and independent isn't a bad thing.But, sometimes I get caught in my "I can do it all" mentality. When we first got married, Claudy would get so made at me, because I wouldn't let him help me. I've had to learn that letting people help you, doesn't make you weak or dependent, but actually there is freedom and joy in it.
This week, I was sitting on the couch, and I heard the voice in my head saying..."Why can't you keep Lia home, you should be able to work and be a stay at home mom. You should be cooking every meal and cleaning the house, Claudy shouldn't help with that."
They just kept coming one by one.
I had to tell myself to stop. It isn't true. Community and allowing others to help you is a good thing. There is freedom. We were designed for community.